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People can change from what they were in the younger days. what bothers me is that Dude's long range plan is to own a bar. that doesn't seem to be removing himself from past problems. Another question is what is his father like. unfortunately we learn al lot of our behavior from our parents. How was his mom treated by her husband? I think we need to call a hault to this experiment

I really think that things are moving fast for this couple. At dinner they were discussing things like it was a GO! for the wedding, but they had only talked for a few hours before that. It is kind of weird. I hope that it all works out for the best for the two of them, but I just hope that everything comes out before Perky goes through with anything. You can't change a man, and if his past is questionable, then she needs to be sure that he is ready to make the change on his own, and if he is not and that is not acceptable behavior to her, and it would not be for me, then she needs to rethink this.

Pat and Cornbread, my question is was there a background check done on perky or any of the brides? It seems like background checks were done on the grooms! I know her family and friends say she is a good and upstanding person but u and the rest of don't know her personally so we don't if she is or isn't! I think everyone has a past some not so good, but, people change and turn their life around, so let's give "dude" benefit of the doubt! He sounds like a good guy 2 me give him a chance i think he and "Perky" will b great 2gether and have a happy life! i say they should go 4 it!!!! And live happily ever after!

Thank you for posting this update! I heard up through the step mom's call this morning, but then I had to go to work. I have been checking the site all morning for an update and I am so glad a board has finally opened up again! Please continue to post any updates when they come in? Has Perky spoken her mind about these updates yet?

If I was her I would be very concerned about these incidents, especially since there seems to be a pattern of them in the not-so-distant past. Does this mean he is not ready for marriage, or ready to turn his life around? Absolutely not. But I think Perky should think long and hard before jumping into a marriage with this guy. He seems wonderful, and if the connection is there, why not take it slower and see where how things progress in the real world? I think if they were to take it slow, work through their problems, and end up married in a couple of years, it could still be considered a success for the show.

Did I hear this morning that he has a child? I don't remember that being mentioned before. Has he been married? How old is the child, and does he see him/her regularly?

I'm not sure I feel about all of the revelations this morning. If his license is suspended, why didn't he get a hardship license to be able to go back and forth to work, instead of breaking the law over and over? I'd love to hear what Perky's family thinks now.

I was just wondering if pat or cornbread is going to post a update on what perky said this morning I didnt get to hear what she had to say...

Perky, please please be very cautious!!
I married someone with a similiar past and family owned a liquor store. He too thought he was past that type of lifestyle, but was not. It is a very difficult, especially emotionally to deal with some one who may have a drinking problem (I am not saying that Dude does now) but I urge you to think this over very carefully. Talk with family, friends, counselors, and then proceed with your head.
Take Care of You and Best of Luck to You.
Sincerely,
JJ

Perky,

Please think about this! If he gets in a fight and someone sues... you could lose everything. If he drinks and kills someone you could lose everything. I am not saying he is a bad guy but why put yourself into his attny. problems. You are young and sounds like a loveable strong person. One of the callers said to be a Marine he has to have a bar fight....to be a strong man you should think about your life and the people you love and walk away from trouble! Whatever you decide I wish you well but remember in a year the public will put this behind them but you will have the rest of your life to live with this decision.

I have been following this experiment since the beginning. I admit I was happy to hear that "Dude" was brought in because he has been so interested in Perky since he heard her voice. However, Cornbread, I think your experiment needs to stop here. I have serious reservations about "Dude". When I heard his first conversation with Perky, I was a little put off. He seems to be a fast talker-you know the kind of guy who is a BS'r with all the right things to say and turns out to be a jerk in the end. I know people can change and I am not saying that "Dude" is a jerk, but I think that we are dealing with forever and I think Perky can find better. She has plenty of time to find the right guy and get married and I think she should just wait until it happens. God has a plan for her and I'm not so sure this is it. Perky, don't make a rash decision just because the wedding is a few days away. Good luck and I am praying for you.

I am in a relatioship with a young man who is only 19 and recieved his first DWI. Is that really who he is? NO, people learn from their mistakes and sometimes it takes more than once to learn what is right. I think she should give him the benefit of the doubt because no one is perfect and I am sure she isn't either. Some of us just get caught unlike others. Everyone may get a traffic violation here and there but that doesn't mean that we are immature or irresponsible.

THIS IS FOR PERKY...Dump this guy named DUDE...Hes no good for you. DWI and fight and etc. He won't change. You'll be divoricing him in a year or two. And why would you marry a guy who wants to own a bar. Get someone that really desires to make something of himself. Go back to Wednesday or even Thursday. BUT DON'T MARRY THE DUDE. He's a loser. I have two daughters and my daughters wanted to marry someone like that I would have disapproved. Fortunately, my daugthers married an Eye doctor and a Senior System Engineer who works for Nestle. Both of my daughters have been married for over 10 years . THere has been ups and downs but I feel good about who they married. AGAIN,,,,,GET RID OF THIS LOSER DUDE..... Please for your sake and your family, I'm surprise that your grandpa would even approve of this guy. You can do better PERKY. By the way I've been married for 38 years. My wife and I have both Bachelor degrees and great jobs. I also have 2 retirements. One after serving the military for 21 years and one after working in St. Louis. Now I work part time for the Police. I own my house and a nice truck and a car. You can have the same too if you don't marry a loser like this. Just because he was a Marine is not a reason to marry this guy. GOODD LUCK .....I'LL PRAY FOR YOU THIS WEEKEND....

People do change, and it seems like Dude is ready to leave that in the past, but I think that Perky needs to talk with him again about all this, and see how she feels after that.

Cornbread I am really disappointed in you. I would have thought you would have done this kind nof background check before you introduced him to Perky especially since she was so heartbroken after Wed groom. I mean she has basically had some time to start growing feelings for Dude and now SLAM this. If you EVER do anything like this again, I would think you would have all the background checks and everything done ahead of time. Just my opinion!

Just me...OK maybe one traffic ticket is not irresponsible but he has a ton of them and is just " taking care of them". When you continually break the law..this includes traffic tickets...that is immature!
She does not need to be sucked into his attny. mess. Let him clean up his life then think about taking care of someone else!

i liked dude from the beginning. i know people change, but i'm not sure what to think about any more, my heart goes out to perky, i have no idea what i would do. this is a huge decision. i wish she had longer to decide. this is a serious decisino that deserves to be thought out and talked about with family and what not.

good luck perky, i truly am glad that i'm not in your shoes, i wish you the best, if this doesnt work out, trust me, God has someone better in mind for you. you deserve it.

Too many red flags. Run Perky Run.

Perky I do like the Dude but there are lots of red flags here. I was married to an alcoholic and we had a bar and it was a miserable life because of his drinking. I am so sorry that this wasn't all checked out before you even met him. Good Luck and we are all wishing you the best.

Perky,
I have been following this wedding also very closely. I had you down to Thursday's Groom. I know U said you always made wrong choices in the past, so I really thought that since U did not want to choose Thursday, that he was actually probably the Best One. He seemed really sincere. I think you guys would have gotten along great. After all since you didn't choose him, he Was Probably The Right One, since you said your choices were usually wrong. He looked attractive in his picture, maybe you should try talking to him again, maybe too late since his picture was revealled. It's a shame, I think you two would have worked. Good Luck

The words don't match up with the findings. How many citations are there? Suspended license? Driving with it suspended? Part of being responsible means admitting you're wrong and accepting the punishment, then demonstrating you're sorry by dealing with the consequences. Not coming up with excuses for why you ignored them and continued to do things you know were wrong. Where's the honor? Where's the respect? Where's the pride? The first incident should be enough, but 20+ doesn't seem to have driven the message home. Sorry, but it's a pattern of the rules don't apply to him and his desire to own and run a bar only indicates he's working towards immersing himself in the same situations/conditions that led to the current issues. It's way to early to tell if he's turned a corner, and I'd have to think long and hard before getting married having kids and exposing them to someone how possibly hasn't. Keeping in mind, this is only the information they know and there could be plenty more that remains unknown.

When I met my husband 20 yrs ago he did not have a valid drivers license and had a drinking problem. I knew him when we were kids too, we both went through divoces and met at a bar. We got married 2 years later he has not had a traffic violation in 20 yrs and is a good husband father and a hard working man. Some people do change.

Perky I do like the Dude but there are lots of red flags here. I was married to an alcoholic and we had a bar and it was a miserable life because of his drinking. I am so sorry that this wasn't all checked out before you even met him. Good Luck and we are all wishing you the best.

Everybod is entitled to an opinion and that is just what it is...an opinion. Ultimately the two of them have to make this decision. If I were in Perky's place this would have raised a red flag. Do Dude's mistakes define who he is? Maybe, maybe not. Only he knows that truth. Did he learn from his mistakes? Not sure since he obviously had a second DWI. My opinion is that anyone with a drinking problem - and in my opinion anyone who drinks and drives has a problem - probably would be better suited to a different occupation than owning a bar. Just wondering why, since this has come out, was he simply not eliminated and the whole thing called off. Seems like the other person that was thought to be the "perfect one" was eliminated because of his background check. People can and do change, but only if they make a decision to do so. I do have some concerns that a Marine, who is supposed to represent many things, among them honor, would continue to drive knowing he was doing so illegally. There is such a thing as a hardship license he could have pursued or did he simply think he is above the law? No one is perfect, without mistake, but trust is a big part of what a relationship is built on and Perky has to decide if the little trust they would have been able to build so far can deal with this knowledge. Best of luck to both of them.

CORNBREAD.... This guy (DUDE) is not good for Perky. If you really want to do good for Perky, call it off or find someone better. DON'T LET PERKY MARRY DUDE.
I know a loser when I hear it. I've been married for 38 years. TOO MANY RED FLAGS....

You have a new job- new experiences and you're only 22. Keep looking.

Ok, I've kept quiet until now but here goes. This experiment, though highly entertaining, is a complete disaster. I feel that what originally started out as a safe strange experiment that had no chance of working out has now turned into something that seems forced and rushed because of deadlines and etc. What I cant figure out is why Perky didnt call it quit after 2 of the guys she thought it might work with bailed on her? For the sake of her own sanity and life she should have stopped the show and asked to be reconnected to those guys in real life to see if it could actually work. But instead she falls trap to the "I gotta find a groom so we can have the big public wedding" deal and starts to try and force feelings for someone just for the sake of the "experiment"

I would have changed the experiment format from day 1. All of the groom finalist and bride finalist should have gotten a chance to talk to each other. We would have had more variables and a better shot to get 1 pair maybe even more.

Cornbread, I love the show bud and you're hilarious but your conscience has to be wearing on you by now. In your heart you cant truthfully believe that now after everything that has gone on that this is a logical and morally correct thing to be doing.

I think an axe needs to be put on the whole ordeal and we can chalk it up to a good month of radio but something to never ever revisit again.

I felt the need to share my experience with my hubby. We met thru a co-worker...blind date. He was working in a bar as a bartender at the time. I had a 3 year old daughter from a previous marriage. This guy was a drinker and had some previous legal prob. That's about all I knew about him. He was so nice and considerate to me AND my little girl that we go married 6 mo. later and believe me there was lots I didn't know of his past. BUT we got married and 31 years later we are still crazy in love. He wanted to make a new better life and I helped him to do that. Just want Perky to know that anything is possible if both are committed to work together for the better of each.

We can all say what we want, but Perky needs to talk with Dude, get the all the answers, and make her decision. My nephew had 2 DUI's (in his early 20's), and had his license suspended. He's 31 now, and HAS changed.

ok, i'm still waitning on an answer 2 my question 2 pat and cornbread, does any1 else wonder if there was a background check done on perky shouldn't it b the same for the bride as it is for the groom? why should she know about his background and him not know about hers? does she have any bad info in her past he should know about? i would like to if any one else feels the same way?

Good question...but at this point... Who cares. Two wrongs don't make a right. I wish them both well...just not together

Hello Ms. Perky,

Is owning a bar the kind of married life you want, Perky? It is a 24/7 - 7 day a week job to make it work in breaking even. My parents owned a restaurant/bar; a liquor bar and a beer/wine bar in their retirement.

If you do not want anyone "drinking" the profits away whilr you are off the premises, and also having an owner on the premises helps to build the business up and stays up. This translates to never being home except to sleep!

Also, hiring bouncers to keep the fights to a minimum will keep your husband and you out of the chaos and jail. But, in the beginning a good long pipe will deter the meanest drunk. There are many ups and just as many downs to running a good bar! "Trust" is the keyest of all issues as it is in any marriage.

Listen to God and whoever you trust the most as you make this hardest decision in your life. You can make your own deadline! God Bless both of you! Let go and let God lead you both!

I am not as well-versed in quotes as some of the other bloggers, but: "Leopards usually do not change their spots."

"Perky" should do what she thinks is best for her. Even though "Dude" had some past experiences he's not proud of I believe people can change, but whats best is what "Perky" thinks. This is her life and she needs to live it for her.

Of everyone on these blogs I have been the most critical of Perky and Dude.

I am not going to do that today.

I feel this experiment is a detriment to marriage everywhere. Perhaps if it was done over a longer span of time but this short month, weeks is way to fast.

As for Dude's past. The guy that called in and said that your not a Marine without a bar fight was right. I was an Army Ranger and never left a bar where Marines were without a little brawl. It is a way of life in the infantry. His one arrest was in North Carolina, probably outside of Fort Bragg, this is common in that area.
As for traffic tickets, common how many people go five miles over the speed limit? Hell every morning I see the rest of you Nascar wannabes driving on 270. If you don't drive 80 in a 60 you get run over.

Regardless of his past he sounds like he has changed his outlook on life. He is finally taking responcibility for his past with an attorney.

I want to see this experiment fail because I feel it is way too rushed. This though isn't a reason for it to fail.

Everything else aside, Dude whether this works out or not continue to be the man you want to be and not the boy you were.

Run, Perky, run!!

You don't need Dude's problems in your life. Remember what you said in the beginning - you were looking for someone with a stable career. You had better selections than this - a teacher and one that works for the Dept of Conservation - both sound pretty stable. You need more time to deal with this. Go have a big party on Wednesday, take a vacation, think about all the conversations you had - maybe some spark will come back to you. (I'm personally hoping you reconsider Wednesday and Friday guys. They didn't get the time they deserved.)

You're young, you have your whole life ahead of you to find the right guy.

It's not that people can change or do change. There are always exceptions, but for each one that does, there are a lot more that don't. It's risk vs. consequences. If this were my daughter I would have to seriously have to ask myself if this is worth the risk only to find out he hasn't/won't change and this is only the tip of the iceberg. Maybe if it wasn't an on-going issue...unresolved and time had passed and he demonstrated he has changed, but it's too early to tell. We're not talking 6 months later before getting married. We're talking next week. Sorry, but I couldn't tell my daughter.."Go ahead and marry him. We'll worry about whether he changed or not later. Who cares if he has a pattern of violence, disrespect for authority, and unacceptable behavior. Surely he will treat you different."

ok if this doesn't work out for dude and perky it should stop there! come on cornbread you did your best and it didn't work out so call it a loss and forget it! you said this morning that if the perky didn't get married she would still get a honeymoon Y? was that a part of the deal from the beginning? don't think i heard u say it was. i agree with some of the other listeners i think the wedding and other things should have been planned after u found a bride and groom! don't u think some of them entered the experiment just b-cause of everything u were going 2 give them? anyone else think the same think the way i do? i know if i was young and had joined the experiment it would have been for the house and free stuff. it seems young people want everything for nothing and not have to work for it anymore! just my opion how the rest of you?

Sometimes you play the card with letter "C" not for Cornbread - but for the counselor available. Maybe the young gent could get some anger managment sessions. Or alcoholics anonymous may be a possibility. Seeking another occupation might be an idea. These are all decisions he might have to make & think to act upon to show his real true devotion to 1- himself 2-future aspect bride-to-be for passion of sincere future relationship to continually develop.
Just a suggestion/opinion/idea. no offense intended.

I'm still stuck on the constant references to how love can conquer all and if there is love and commitment, it will all work out, but P has said several times that she doesn't think being in love is realistic prior to the wedding. Sorry, but you should be in love first, get married second. Not find someone you think might be okay, marry them, and see if true love will blossom after the fact. "First comes love...Then comes marriage....Then comes P with the baby carriage"...I thought that's how it goes.

ok, i'm still waitning on an answer 2 my question 2 pat and cornbread, does any1 else wonder if there was a background check done on perky shouldn't it b the same for the bride as it is for the groom? why should she know about his background and him not know about hers? does she have any bad info in her past he should know about? i would like to if any one else feels the same way?

I am disappointed that the "deep investigation" wasnt done before they went on a date and talked for two nights. It is messing with perky's emotions and feelings toward dude.

I am disappointed that the "deep investigation" wasnt done before they went on a date and talked for two nights. It is messing with perky's emotions and feelings toward dude.

Joyce,

I did comment back..it is titled to joyce

Ok! This is just my thoughts:
First of all, he had the DUI on his applications. So anything on his application should be fair game for Perky to ask about.
Second of all, he told her he had been arrested in the past. Why didn't Perky call him on it and ask questions on that?
Third of all, Dude is steping up to the plate by admiting he had a past and is wanting to take the proper steps to correct it, make it a thing of the past, and move on into the next chapter of his life which happens to be a responsible adult!
Honestly, no body is perfect. I'm sure if we'd ask Perky, she has done things that she's not proud of and hopefully has learned from them. Everyone makes mistakes but the importent thing she should be looking for is someone who will take responsibility for what they did, correct it and learn from it, and then move on!

Now we are exposed upon another weekend of this continual soap opera saga of morning show sessions. Yes they are intriguing. True they are keeping us tuned to station WIL92.3. Discussing - our family continually keeps the debates alive in our household. How will the day begin? How will the week start? How many more times shall we keep hoping for the lovely Perky to find her one true life long soul mate? How many more hours are the writers (authors unknown) going to keep us guessing? How shall we cope? How shall we continually keep guessing, drawing straws? We don't know. All we can do is tune in Monday - same early hours, same genuine box square round off. What shall your guess be? Will you be right? What are you hoping for? Only time will tell with the wonderful - writer of the script "Miss Perky". What a story!

Run for the hills Perky! Doesn't know if his license is suspended or not, duh? He is not mature enough for you and a history of drinking and violence, not a good combination. Cornbread, your experiment just shows what I have discovered after 20 years in the Air Force, 15 years of marriage, and 10 years of being divorced and searching for a good man, that most men are boys no matter what age and there are very few good men out there. At least Perky is wise enough at 22 to recognize it. By the way, the Marines that I have been fortunate to serve with fight for their country, not in bars.

I think the main problem about this experiement is that it is looking at love all wrong. Yes, love is blind (in some cases). HOwever, love is also a process. You cannot possibly talk to someone for a couple of days and decide,... Hey! It's love! Love and marriage are hard work and they require trust. HOw can you possibly trust someone you've never had to actually rely on before? Perky, you seem like a wonderful person, but you're young and you shouldn't have to settle (nothing against DUde). Do not feel pressured to get married just because it was expected. Go with your heart, but your head has a large place in your decision too.

I think the main problem about this experiement is that it is looking at love all wrong. Yes, love is blind (in some cases). HOwever, love is also a process. You cannot possibly talk to someone for a couple of days and decide,... Hey! It's love! Love and marriage are hard work and they require trust. HOw can you possibly trust someone you've never had to actually rely on before? Perky, you seem like a wonderful person, but you're young and you shouldn't have to settle (nothing against DUde). Do not feel pressured to get married just because it was expected. Go with your heart, but your head has a large place in your decision too.

Perky, you are ready. That is wonderful. Hook up with someone else that is READY, not WANTS TO BE READY, or IS WORKING ON GETTING READY. You are on UNBELIEVABLE pressure, however, if it is not right, it is not worth it. You could be missing out on that right person, just around the corner.

I certainly am rooting for you-to make the right decision for your life--regardless of the show!

Even if you don't do this---we all have grown to love you and will want updates on your experiences in finding the Right Man.........

shoot CB, she could be a regular with a different kind of experiment! We all watch the reality shows because we want to see how others make decisions!

Good Luck!

Can we be any more wrong for trying to guess what this young man or woman would like to do? This should be their decision. They really should not listen to our advice. They should just listen to their own logically thinking. Its their lives.

Can we be any more wrong for trying to guess what this young man or woman would like to do? This should be their decision. They really should not listen to our advice. They should just listen to their own logically thinking. Its their lives.

Can we be any more wrong for trying to guess what this young man or woman would like to do? This should be their decision. They really should not listen to our advice. They should just listen to their own logically thinking. Its their lives.

As fascinating (and entertaining) as this process has been, the fact of the matter is this is marriage. A sacred gift to be shared between two committed individuals. I've enjoyed all the twists and turns...and seeing the commitment and care of the WIL staff and the listening community. And Perky's excitement, openness, honesty have all been astonishing and heart warming. However, this has clearly not become the situation Cornbread envisioned. It seems now it's a desparate commitment to not waste the resources spent and the Powell Hall reservation. End this. Now. If this is TRULY a social experiment, the results are in. In this structure, under these guidelines, constraints and time frame, a wedding between 2 people who have fallen in love sight unseen is not happening. Has not happened. Send Perky on a well-deserved Holiday somewhere beautiful. I applaud the well-meaning intention. Like Cornbread, those of us who have been blessed with wonderful relationships wish that for everyone. Perky will probably find that...but no this way, this time. God bless one and all. And God Bless America!

Cornbread - Promotions Please post or list the Dunkin donuts Listenings. We thought they had all closed up. We did not realize there was any more dunkin donut shops left. They are like the best donuts for more than triple decades.

Cornbread - Promotions Please post or list the Dunkin donuts Listenings. We thought they had all closed up. We did not realize there was any more dunkin donut shops left. They are like the best donuts for more than triple decades.

RAFW - I agree. I served with Marines who didn't need to fight in bars to prove themselves. I'm not sure how people explain away all the legal issues as being responsible. Even if he's being "targeted"...so what? If you don't want to get kicked by a horse, don't put yourself in that position. Don't want to get pulled over with a revoked/suspended license, then don't drive. Hardly shows responsibility, remorse, turning the corner, or anything else. Blaming circumstances and others isn't accepting responsibility, it's being a coward and a victim. "It's everybody's fault but mine." Has he sought help for the behaviors driving the problems to address the cause? Doesn't sound like it. That's being responsible...not focusing on a lawyer to help get him off the hook.

Cornbread - Promotions Please post or list the Dunkin donuts Listenings. We thought they had all closed up. We did not realize there was any more dunkin donut shops left. They are like the best donuts for more than triple decades.

Cornbread - Promotions Please post or list the Dunkin donuts Listenings. We thought they had all closed up. We did not realize there was any more dunkin donut shops left. They are like the best donuts for more than triple decades.

to: M, sorry i was gone for awhile i saw your comment when i came back i agree but i still wonder if they did a background check on perky as well

You are too young to get married, let alone getting married and not even knowing the guy. Thank everyone for the effort and wait.

Remember Perky you can always just simply love yourself first. After you seek your faith (religion purposes), you will come to know yourself in a deeper personal self worth (huge self esteem lift)
You can choose after Vacation trip.

Remember Perky you can always just simply love yourself first. After you seek your faith (religion purposes), you will come to know yourself in a deeper personal self worth (huge self esteem lift)
You can choose after Vacation trip.

Remember Perky you can always just simply love yourself first. After you seek your faith (religion purposes), you will come to know yourself in a deeper personal self worth (huge self esteem lift)
You can choose after Vacation trip.

1st we (my wife of almost 31 years) (Charley and Ida) would like to say that marriage is a serious and significant event in anyone’s life. 2ndly, no one is perfect and we all make mistakes especially when we are in our maturing years. That is part of life and we hopefully learn from these experiences. The fact that he is taking care of his business is a testament to the fact that he is being responsible. We do not have a crystal ball that can look into the future and tell you whether or not you will stay together forever...only God has that answer. It is time to quit asking everyone what you should do…the decision is yours and yours alone. It comes down to trusting each other and be willing to work (even when it is bad) through the issues together. If every wedding was called off on the bets that "they want make 6 months" a lot less people would be married; including us. Team work and understanding...if you work on this, you can overcome the stumbling blocks that you will encounter. It will not be easy because LIFE will get in the way. However, if you don't do this now, you will always wonder. You have already taken the 1st step; take the next and Good Luck!

This has become a joke. How can a woman that is getting ready to hear something that she does not know about someone she is going to marry fall asleep? Wasn't she also sleeping one day and she never even called in to the show?

cornbread or pat post some updates on whats going on????

I have been listening intently to all that has transpired over the past days. It is good that the information on DUDE has come out as PERKY is having to make a decision based on information and not looks, and how that information plays into her heart and head. However, I truly believe that the only one that can make a decision on things at this point is PERKY. She seems like a very intelligent girl and I am quite sure she will make the right decision for herself and not based on the pressure of a wedding deadline. I believe that she wants this to be a life long decision and that is the measuring stick she will use to make her decision. Good luck PERKY and God Bless.

Does anyone remember just a couple days ago everyone "commending" the young man on his being a marine and protecting & serving our country ? I know first hand these men come home and in their own way fight their own battles till they get grounded again to normal life. And all to often having someone to support you and care for you, as perky is looking for as well can only strengthen this prince as well as perky. We ALL have made mistakes in our life, and have had to make things right. I say it takes one hell of a person to not only protect our country and us. But to stand tall and say to all of us , here I am trying to make things right and not only want perky to be my wife but have been trying to better my wrongs.

Regardless of the individuals involved, I believe this "experiment" was doomed at the outset for one reason...too little time. Had this been set up to be carried out over three-months or so, the intense pressure would be relieved and might have allowed things to flow more naturally with less focus on the calendar and more on the people involved. From a marketing standpoint, if WIL was afraid listeners would lose their interest, that would not be the case. Many of us stick with reality shows which span an 8 to 12 week schedule. My interest never lags because I become attached to the participants.

For those who missed it, audio from some segments this morning is posted above. THANK YOU ALL for your spirited and civil debate here! Hopefully it continues well into the weekend.

What started out as a social experiment seems on it's way to a social disaster. So many things gone wrong within the past week. This is no longer an experiment but real interferrence in Perky's forever after! Get rid of the deadlines and let her and whatever groom she choses have more time.

Just my opinion, I think Perky should call this whole thing off and take some more time with Wens. groom. He seemed interested just needed more time. In reality he is the smart one here. You can't possibly fall in love with someone in 6 days.

Perky,

I have to say that I am someone who believes in 2nd chances and giving someone the benefit of the doubt, but there is a definite pattern here and I would run for hills !!!!! Not the right guy!!

I agree with all the "he may have changed" and "he was a proud Marine", but if you going to look at the possibility of change for the better you also have to look at the other side of the coin. What if the behaviors are the result of traumatic combat experiences that have led to these behaviors? You have to give weight to the fact that there have also been returning vets who have been deeply affected to the point of taking their own lives or the lives of others because they went undiagnosed and untreated. Not saying that's the case, but it's equally as possible as him making life changing improvements and deserves equal consideration. Keeping in mind it won't show up on questionnaires, background checks and may not surface until later.

MASTER CARD THE "NATURE BOY" VERSION - WITH ADDED EXPENSES

-Renting Powell Symphony Hall for a canceled wedding - $15,000
-Buying a wedding dress just to let it hang in her closet – $10,000
-Paying taxes on a “FREE” house - $20,000 (20% or so of value)
-Paying taxes on a “GIFTED” wedding - $10,000 (another %)
-Paying traffic tickets for years of DWI's and moving violations - $15,000
-"Extra" dinner at the Lumiere place cause no one can seem to get this process right - $200.00
-Total expense for a "BLIND WEDDING" and getting married to someone who has a terrible track record - $70,200.00

- Still being able to see the faces full of smiles from the family that “NATURE BOY” just bought dinner for, because he has a good soul and was in front of them in the drive thru – PRICELESS

-Perky, Knowing that you took the time to get to know everyone except the right/only "MAN" and the person who St. Louis voted #1 - CRAZY

If you want to max out your credit lime with the newly added expenses from this “love is blind” wedding there’s master card, (check first the limit is growing!!) for all the good things in life there’s still the good ole' "NATURE BOY(MAN)"

Perky & Dude
Good Luck/ But I think their are lot of people against it and for it. Its a decision you two have to make. Not Mom Dad Family friends etc They advices are just going to confuse you. Yes there are always hurtles in life. Yes some people can heal from past. I made mistakes when I was young and now have three children and life goes on. You are who you are and only you for yourself set your future. Thats why their are lawyers. I say go for it and try your hardest to make it work. Just make sure you dont jump in, if your heart says no. This goes for both of you. Just remember what you said, you are here for and what you want in each other, before making the final decision. Good Luck.
Perky wait for me to get divorced and marry me. lol

Love isn't a process, a relationship is a process. Love is what blinds you when you never see it coming, it's what makes your heart ache and body shudder, it's what stops you stone cold when you hear a voice on the radio. And being hit by love and not really realizing until it's too late, or wanting to do something about it until it's gone, can be intensely painful. Love is something to grab and hold close, no matter the course. Is this love, only Perky and Dude know that. Sure, he has some history, who doesn't? Some guys just take a while to grow up and realize they need to change paths. But knowing this country boy, he is defiinitly moving past it and wanting to settle down, and he's definitely worth loving. He has a huge heart of gold and wants to share it with someone. I can only imagine his dismay at all the uncertainty in this. I wish him the best in this "social experiment" and hope that he'll find his way in what could be a tragically romantic love story...

Perky,

PLEASE DO NOT MARRY THIS LOSER!

I think you need to let them make the decision for htemselves. We all have things in our past we would like to put behind us. No one is perfect and Dude shouldn't be expected to be perfect either. My son has been an alcoholic since he was 16 (father-related). He is almost 33 now. He has overcome it and has a wonderful wife and a beautiful 2 year old daughter.

Dude got most of his tickets, from what I understand, TRYING to make a living and get back and forth to work. My son used to live in a small town too where he lived with his father. Once those small town cops stop you, you are on their laser and every time they see you out, they come up with a reason to stop you and give you a ticket. My son has also been in fights, more than I'd like to count. I won't lie to you, he could have easily been in jail by now, but he isn't. He has a VERY stable life, job, and family. Give them both a chance.

You never find out everything about a guy/girl before you get married anyway, there's a lot of us who have secrets our spouses probably STILL don't know about our past.

Dude & Perky, listen to your hearts. If it's right, your hearts will tell you. I know how I am agonizing over this, so I can just imagine how you two are feeling. Continue to be strong. For better or for worse.

I really hope we can get passed this and move on to a wedding!! Just remember this that people do alot of stupid stuff when they are young!! And from what i heard this morning she know alot about it!! So he was willing to disclose everything to her so that has got to say something!!! And I just wanted to tell them I wish them the best of luck in whatever is decided!!

To all,

I have been married for 15yrs (my second). I got married when I was in my early 20s the first time andj I know now that I was not mature enough for the proposition. I think that these two youngsters aare getting into a relationship that will eventually erode like a riverbed, I was high on the Idea that two people could get to know each other with out seeing each other. But there is more than just the heartfelt connection you get from not meeting your potential mate. We are all a visual and we ALL need to be visually attracted to someone before you want to pursue the object of our affection. Sufise to say I would scrap the EXPERIMENT NOW.

Perky,

I have a song I would love for you to hear. Music has a way to move us. The song is "Never Want To See You Fall"
In it there is a line that says, You are always running somewhere. Why don't you catch your breath?There are sometimes when you are better off alone. Just take a look areound and you know..if it's love or it's fear that your running from. Sometimes it can feel the same. I never want to see you fall!
Perky..don't let all the comments get to you. Read them, sit back and listen to the good and bad, then you decide your heart. But remember your family and the public NEVER WANT TO SEE YOU FALL.

I'm a mother of three 21,22,23. My 23 year old has had many tickets!! And she just got a dui. She is not a bad person, does she hang around the wrong people I beleive so. But I think being in jail, finger printed has made her stop an think about her life.
I think alot of kids go out drinking and have a wild side till they finally grow up.
I don't drink never have so you can't say look at the parents. Give Dude a cahnce. He did say he had an dui and that he was in jial. He didn't lie!
Dude I back you. Perky it's your choice but think with your heart and not what anyone else is saying .(That includes myself) I have felt like you are one of my own daughters and I would be telling you the same FOLLOW YOUR HEART!!
Best of luck

For those that support that Dude is an alright guy and just needs a chance. Explain why when CB asked if he currently had a suspended license or not, why didn't he answer yes. He only agreed to having a suspended license when CB confronted him with the facts. Also, he didn't put down that he was arrested for fighting because it was a misdemeanor not a felony. He blames the local police for all his violations. This doesn't sound like a mature man taking responsibility for his actions.

I am not sure what to think about Dude! I think he could be the one for Perky, but I am not for sure. Perky listen to you heart. One thing I do know and want to say is that, when I first started dating my boyfriend of over 3 years, he got in two bad fights and went to jail. He was just in the wrong place at the wrong time, he was not actually the one fighting, his friends were. But according to the police records he was and it says he tried to hit the cop!! LIES!! Crocked Cops! He had a DUI about 10 years ago also. And last year he got a BWI. It can happen to anyone who drives after drinking a few beers. It depends on you luck to not get pulled over. I didn't hold any of that against him. It made me wonder a little, but I hung in there and I am so glad I did. He is NOT a bad person. He is the best man I have ever known. We have a house together and I am waiting for him to pop the question. People told me to leave him at the beginning, I didn't. I listened to my heart, not my head and I believe my heart was right! I am so happy with my chose to stick by his side. I cant wait for the day that I marry him. I also think that a women keeps a man out of trouble. A single man is out looking for his soul mate, which usually means more time in the bar. You also never know who started the fights. Someone could have just thrown the first punch. Was he just suppose to run away?? I guess I am just trying to say, Listen to your heart!! and don't hold things against people with out knowing the entire story! Police Records are NOT always right!! Good Luck Perky!! Listen to your heart, and listen hard!

CORNBREAD,
You need to be the man and stop the madness. I think it was a fun idea. You did your best, but it didn't work, The Dude is questionable, you would never have even let him talk to Perky if you knew all this in the beginning. If she and he want to give it a go in the traditional way..... talk more , date more.....go for it.
There are too many ???????s I say have all the contestants together on Wednesday and have a good time and move on, and come up with your next wild and crazy scheme.

If the issues are still underway...What happens if the best his lawyer can do is get him off with a licensed revoked for 6 months or a year, plus fine? Is P going to be okay with having to drive him everywhere to include work? Sounds like the legal fees might offset the cost of a place to live, but the free house isn't going to do much to allow them to make all the purchases they'll need or save money. Would P still think it's a good deal if she had to pay for rent, and drive him back and forth to work while he's spending his earnings on lawyers? Does she really feel this is the best she can do? If she met him anywhere else, would she consider marrying him? Without the contest and such? How many women out there would honestly meet this guy anywhere, hear all the legal issues and such, then agree to marry them the following week without reservation and without wanting more time to see what he's really about?

I think that Prince deserves a chance. I know from experience that sometimes it takes a long time for boys to grow up into men. My brother and my son are prime examples. Both were a little wild and got into lots of trouble. Both have grown up to be wonderful men. My brother has been married for 27 years to his bride and my son is about to celebrate 6 years with his wife (he is 27 years old). Women mature faster then men - sorry guys but this is a proven fact. Should Prince be condemed for the mistakes of his youth? NO. He is working with his attorney to settle the legal problems that he is having. The only concern that I have is that if drinking is a real problem or just a "phase of youth". I think this is a wonder idea and I love that Cornbread made it happen. Perky, don't give up on Prince - and Prince prove to this woman who is smitten with you that you are worthly of her love and that you have grown into a loving, caring man who takes responsibility for his actions. God Bless you both whatever your decision. Always pray and He will guide you. All you have to do is ask.

Ok... First and foremost there was a comment made on yesterday's show that DUDE and NATURE BOY had all this time to study the other contestants and know exactly what to say and what not to say to Perky. I am truly offended that this comment was made and appologies should be made. First of all by stating that comment shows that this is nothing but a competition and not a meeting of two hearts. I know for a fact that NATURE BOY entered into this knowing what was at stake. He was completely 100% himself because if Perky did not like him for who he is then the marriage would not have worked. He was in it to see if you could love someone without seeing them, not to win! If you don't believe, go back on his blog and read the comment that he, himself posted. He was not able to defend himself yesterday when this comment was made- WHY? Because right now he is helping sand bag to those affected by the flooding. So Cornbread and the rest of the crew, please do not make any other assumptions about NATURE BOY on the air unless you know the true facts. This guy is a good guy and as a good friend, I do not appreciate that you are saying comments that are far from true. If you this experiement is truly about 2 people meeting for love and a meeting of 2 hearts, then you shouldn't be making comments that people are doing "research" to make themselves sound better because in my mind this undermines your entire process.

And as another thought, you say that you do background checks on all the contestants, so how is it that you are just now finding out about DUDE's background? It is not hard to find out if someone has a bad record. Go to Casenet on the web and type the person't name in and it will tell. This really makes me question what kind of an operation you are running here. Your investigator shouldn't have to "dig deeper" to find this information- this should be easily found. I honestly believe that this should be stopped or at least the wedding should be pushed back before hearts are broken and people are truly affected.

Ok... First and foremost there was a comment made on yesterday's show that DUDE and NATURE BOY had all this time to study the other contestants and know exactly what to say and what not to say to Perky. I am truly offended that this comment was made and appologies should be made. First of all by stating that comment shows that this is nothing but a competition and not a meeting of two hearts. I know for a fact that NATURE BOY entered into this knowing what was at stake. He was completely 100% himself because if Perky did not like him for who he is then the marriage would not have worked. He was in it to see if you could love someone without seeing them, not to win! If you don't believe, go back on his blog and read the comment that he, himself posted. He was not able to defend himself yesterday when this comment was made- WHY? Because right now he is helping sand bag to those affected by the flooding. So Cornbread and the rest of the crew, please do not make any other assumptions about NATURE BOY on the air unless you know the true facts. This guy is a good guy and as a good friend, I do not appreciate that you are saying comments that are far from true. If you this experiement is truly about 2 people meeting for love and a meeting of 2 hearts, then you shouldn't be making comments that people are doing "research" to make themselves sound better because in my mind this undermines your entire process.

And as another thought, you say that you do background checks on all the contestants, so how is it that you are just now finding out about DUDE's background? It is not hard to find out if someone has a bad record. Go to Casenet on the web and type the person't name in and it will tell. This really makes me question what kind of an operation you are running here. Your investigator shouldn't have to "dig deeper" to find this information- this should be easily found. I honestly believe that this should be stopped or at least the wedding should be pushed back before hearts are broken and people are truly affected.

************************************************************************************************************************************************************One question Perky NEEDS to ask is "Dude, are you still drinking and Partying" . and Second" Yesterday after your criminal record was released...did you go home or to work and relax & have a drink?"

My husband was a Marine and I asked him what to ask....He said well........you have to see if he is still F---ked up.

I used to really like to go out and have fun but I just moved away from it and grew away from it. .....the reason why I would ask the 1st question

the 2nd question....finds out if he is a drunk or has a real problem with drinking to this day.
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I find it funny that over the past few days I have called both Dude and Perky loosers. I am glad this new information has finally gotten the rest of you to realize this too.

I thought Perky that this morning when Cornbread called to talk to you about what you thought about the updated information they found out about Dude and that you had fallen asleep was hilarious and adorable. Xfactor or not don't do it Perky don't do it!!

All the comments surrounding all the unknowns about Dude. Personally if I was contemplating marrying someone, I'd want to be sure, not hope for the best. There are always risks but I wouldn't bet my happiness and future on a situation like this. I could just as easily say I'm going to spend $1000 on the lottery because someone else won so why couldn't it happen to me? I think P deserves someone with a better track record with less risk and Dude should spend some time getting his life back on track before dragging someone else into the mix.

Someone suggested on another blog that this is probably going to turn out to be an April Fool's joke. The saga has just become a little too dramatic and I'm beginning to think the same thing. Time will tell!

It's plain and simple: we all can't be as perfect as Chris.

right on "MASTERCARD REVISED" i agree with you. also, i agree with sharon . didn't perky say she was the wild one and was looking for someone to stablelize her maybe she needs to stablelize herself or she and dude can stablelize each other seems that's what they are both looking for in someone

i have been following this for weeks and reading all of the comments and I my opinion of this and what should happen is irrelevant, but to all bloggers and people throwing out opinions on what should be done, I have a cocuple of questions...

Do you honestly believe that the team was not aware of "dude"'s past prior to introducing him to Perky? Cornbread said they found out because they decided to run a three state background check (which was too expensive to run in the beginning) - did they just happen to choose the states he had trouble in...I don't think that's is how a background check works. His past was most likely the reason he was eliminated by the screening team. IF Perky was not made aware of his indiscretions prior to introducing him, shame on the morning show for playing with emotions. We have to remember this is a ratings game and it is definitely working!

They have created a story that people are becoming passionate about and have succeeded in creating a buzz in St. Louis!

JOYCE. All the brides went through a background check, including Perky, and it's ongoing. In this case, the information did not come soon enough. But at least it came in time for Perky to make an informed decision.

Please post your comments only once as it becomes cluttered to read. When you hit subit, please hit it only once. Traffic load is extremely heavy and can cause a delay, but your comment WILL post. Hope this info helps...Thanks for the continued intelligent debate.

i am listening to perkys converstion with cornbread this morning again i say has she been totally honest with everyone? she says she is wild and needs someone to keep her grounded well maybe dude is looking for the same thing! why should she be the only one to need someone to keep her grounded? give the poor guy a chance! i still haven't heard from pat about the background check on perky was there one? maybe dude would like to know that also! Also, Amanda i never heard the comment u say cornbread made about dude and nature boy yesterday i must have been in the shower or getting ready to take my grandaughter to surgery so i didn't get to hear the whole show i also don't c a comment from natureboy unless it's the one about mastercard revised??? i still wish i was the one behind him the drive-thru when i am paying for my grandkids' food! lol he sounds like a great guy to me i again say his momma raised him very well! I commend u nature boys mom or should i say supermans mom as i renamed him!

pat thanks for clearing that up i do have faith in you and cornbread and luv the show i have been listening to wil since the sixties when david was the only morning dj then it was david and debbie then monica got in the mix now it is you and cornbread and i still luv the show my grandkids luv listening to u also when i take them to school every morning they u guys are crazy more power to u that is what makes the show soooo good keep up the good work u and cornbread make it very interesting and i'm sorry mine gets posted twice sometimes i don't realize i hit it twice i c other people do the same thing i try to b more careful luv all of you at "WIL" all of u have so much fun together i have grown to luv your family and also cornbreads beloved Lisa also and tell Lisa and cornbread i don't shut the door when i go potty either so right on "LISA' I'M WITH YOU I DON'T LIKE THE DOOR SHUT EITHER IT'S ALL FAMILY AT MY HOUSE

I have been reading this blog all day long as more entries are posted, and I am really distressed about one very important issue...
Can't anyone spell or use proper grammar and pronunciation? Frankly, I think emailing and texting have totally ruined any of our younger folks for being able to communicate with the proper tools. (This makes me sound so old. I'm not.) As far as this social experiment goes, it's over. Good luck, Perky.

I think Perky needs to grow up herself. It sounds like she is a party animal herself and that she needs someone stable to get herself stable. As far as "Dude" - how long was he in the Marines? What was his MOS? How was he discharged? Honorably? Dishonorably (conduct unbecoming a Marine)? What about his daughter in Arkansas? Why did he leave his daughter behind and come to St. Louis - just because his parents are here? I wonder if his daughter even knows who he is??? Is he paying child support - or does he have an attorney hired to take care of that? Just because you hire an attorney to clean up your messes doesn't mean you're squeaky clean!

To M, who asked Perky if she wants to deal with driving Dude around everywhere...my husband has epilepsy and I spent over 6 months driving him around everywhere after he had a seizure while driving. THAT is what love and marriage are about. You sacrifice for the other person, even if it because they did something stupid to get themselves into that situation.

I appreciate everyone's opinions..even the negative ones. About the background check on me..I did have one..I've never even had a traffic ticket. I have read all of the comments and have thought about them with an open mind, but in the end..this is MY decision and my life. I felt so bad for falling asleep this morning and I tried my hardest not to but a commercial came on and I closed my eyes for a second and was out! I worked almost 15 hours last night. Anyway, I'm sorry that this is being drug along for another weekend but I PROMISE on Monday..all will be laid on the table.

As far as the arrests, many applications only want felonies, that's true. It seems like a from the begininning "Hey I was really messed up and now here's where I am" would have been appropriate in his discussions with Perky, however.

He had to have know whether or not his driver's license was suspended. As someone earlier mentioned, you can get an emergency permit to go to work. Why didn't the attorney do that? Why didn't he know? Seems to me like he would have been counting the days while friends and family drove him to and from work.

The ladies and gents application period should have closed the same day. Basic background checks before processing to final few but then deep background checks should have been done BEFORE any introductions. . . on both the ladies and the gents.

What about blood tests and physicals???

There are just too many variables here left undone down to the last minute. Sorry, Cornbread.

What I am confused is about is why if they saw it on his application that he had his license suspended and been arrested for a DWI/DUI why his background was not checked further in the beginning or why he was even introduced to Perky. None of the other guys had them. I mean he does sound like a good guy but I mean come on! Why put her at risk with that? I know no one is perfect, but this is a red flag that should have been looked into and all of this could have been avoided.

I'm not telling her to run but what I want to say is that she should think hard about it. Why would you let someone marry another person with this kind of record? I know it's Perky's decision, but it seems to me that once the show got the initial back ground check that they gave up and left it at that?

JG - Stupidity in his case isn't a medical condition. There are conditions beyond our control, and those that aren't. I doubt the seizure was by choice, but drinking and driving are. You said you spent 6 months driving your husband around. My uncle had one and couldn't drive...by law... because of the medical condition, and I would be a shiney nickel your husband wasn't any different. With that said, you and your husband obeyed the law and you drove him around. By the same token, it sounds like Dude thumbed his nose at the law as if it doesn't apply to him and drove anyway. P isn't married to him. She said she isn't "in love". At this point she owes him nothing. If his mistakes cost him P, then welcome to the world of consequences. If P decides she's not willing to risk having to drive some guy around she barely knows and isn't in love with, because of his questionable behavioral pattern....that's her call. At this point it is still a factor. However he plans on opening a bar right? Doesn't sound like he's distancing himself from the situation. I'm sure your husband takes meds and steps to control his condition... Dude sounds like he's taking steps that trigger it.

Who's to say that if Wednesday's groom was given this week (a date with Perky) that he would not have felt differently about this whole thing. He was told he needed to be SURE on Monday. These two have been given all week, plus now this weekend. Too bad pictures have been revealed. Maybe one of the "Fab 5" was really THE one (ie: Captain Lucky, Incredible Hulk aka Little Spoon).

Perky
When considering DUDE please take into account that as a MARINE you will defend the Corps and fellow Marine Brothers with everything you have to give. Fighting in the Corps is nothing new and is very common in all branches of the service (usually against each other) and yes Marines are probably the most notorious for it. His fighting is most likely over with unless in a situation that can't be stopped anyother way. The DWI is a stupid move but it happens, so is driving on a suspended license but it too is common. My dad was rejected for a hardship license and his job was 90 miles from St. Louis. He owned the business so he couldn't just quit, he still had bills to pay. What do you do? Dude disclosed some of the information, is it possible that in the middle of all the excitement he forgot to tell you? Just so you know I too am a former Marine with skeleton's in the closet
but my wife bless her heart took a chance and found a changed man. people can change. My wife can attest to that. Give Dude a chance sometimes that's all a person needs to prove themselves.

Brother Dude i certainly hope you have your ducks in a row now and have your priorities inline. Semper Fi

just a thought - good thought

bottom line, the experiment is a fiasco, cornbread cut your losses and just have a party!

As far as driving without a license, im in the insurance business and if I had a nickel for every one out there driving without a license I would be rich! A decision should not be made on that fact. The bottom line is Perky has to talk to Dude and try to feel out if he really is ready ( and herself too) for the steps together that they may make here and decide if it feels right and feels good. Life is full of risks, its just is this the risk she wants to take at this time, with this person in her life. All the rest is just mind boggling crap! Perky follow your heart!

As far as driving without a license, im in the insurance business and if I had a nickel for every one out there driving without a license I would be rich! A decision should not be made on that fact. The bottom line is Perky has to talk to Dude and try to feel out if he really is ready ( and herself too) for the steps together that they may make here and decide if it feels right and feels good. Life is full of risks, its just is this the risk she wants to take at this time, with this person in her life. All the rest is just mind boggling crap! Perky follow your heart!

Sorry, but as a father with a daughter.. The most precious, important, beautiful, thing in my life.... I would NEVER bet her happiness, safety, security, and health on a guy like this under the conditions set up for the wedding. You're going to have to show me you've changed because the actions and history don't match up with what I'm hearing and my daughter is way too important to me to put at risk. If she cancelled the wedding and pursued it offline where there's time to see what he's really about...fine...he can have a chance, but a few hours on the phone isn't going to cut it when it comes to something that important to me. Heck...I'd be hard pressed to loan him a car to drive knowing the history. As far as DUIs...sob stories don't cut it. There's not a person out there who doesn't know the consequences and it's still their poor judgement at fault, not the law. Too bad.

Run, Perky, Run, Run, Run! This guy sounds like a total mess! You are 22. You have many many years to look for a groom. There are tons of fish in the sea. And many without such major life problems. This marriage is going to be hard enough because you hardly know each other. Why make it even harder by adding a groom with tons of problems into the mix? You seem like an intelligent, outgoing, vivacious, young woman. You can have your pick of men. Why be saddled with this one??

You deserve better!

RUN!

PERKY... SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT. IS THIS MARINE ALL TOGEATHER? IF HE SERVED IN IRAQ HIS HEAD MIGHT BE MESSED UP. MANY OF THOSE MARINES ARE COMING BACK WITH PROBLEMS. I CAN SAY THAT BECAUSE I'M A 21 YEAR VETERAN (VIETNAHM VET) AND I SAW MANY OF MY BUDDIES MESSED UP AFTER THEY CAME BACK FROM VIETNAHM. MAKE SURE HE'S NOT MESSED UP IN THE HEAD.

Perky I think u and dude make a great couple go by your gut feeling, listen to your heart and not all the other BS

The young girl involved in this whirlwind has carried herself well throughout, but I can’t understand for the life of me why she is so adamant to marry this way. I like her! She seems sweet and fun-loving while understanding the importance of family and the responsibilities of life. But let’s replay the groom count – she chose one, then she chose another, and then you brought a so-called Prince Charming to the rescue. (Any girl who’s ever dreamed of happy endings could get caught up in this one!) And although there is a chance that it could work, there remains a chance that things could go horribly wrong!!! Especially now that we know Prince Charming is at best questionable????

Additionally, I don’t know about you, but I always thought the courtship period was precious and one of the times most people love to laugh about and reminisce. The surprises, the compromises, the embarrassments, the joys, the problems, the solutions – all part of the wonderful process of truly getting to know someone.

Firing off questions about “How would you react to this and how would you react to that?” has proven that all subjects involved have a good idea of what they believe they should say. The answers to the really important questions should be far more difficult and tested by time and actual situations.

To the men who jumped in and then thought better of it, I say they may have been exactly what this experiment needed. Open-minded guys who couldn’t be convinced to leap off a cliff because of a romantic notion!!! And yes, I believe a couple of them may have made a true connection with your bride. (Perky, remember Batman?) Let her be young and discover more . . . . (Maybe you could hold a "masquerade ball” in her honor at Powell Hall. (Just use simple masks for fun - likenesses of Cornbread, Superheroes, celebs, whatever). Then let all contestants (along with some lucky listeners) attend, relax, and have a good time.

Perky need to stop reading all the negativities and decide for HERSELF what and who is best for her . People DO change ... ! I dont know this guy ... no one really does , but if Perky feels he's right for her , then GO FOR IT! They need to talk out their concerns and not let anyone sway them one way or another . How many of you out there have driven home from a bar DRUNK?? I dont agree with this , but we probably all have .... we just DIDNT get caught ... and he did. I know there's a million things you can say about DUI... and I absolutely HATE drunk drivers for the harm they can cause to innocent others...but with maturity you often change for the better. NO ONE IS A SAINT ... so give "Dude" a break . They didnt say he was an 'alcoholic' as some have said here...AND he had told Perky about those arrests, so its not like he was trying to hide it from her . Ok Ill shut up!! PERKY .... GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND 'DUDE'

Wow
this i had not heard yet
Perky,follow your heart.people make mistakes and then they have to pay the price which he is doing

This is one of the reasons I didn't sign up for this. I believe that a relationship can develop but it is the little things that tell you about the person, how they interact, table manners, personal habits and hygiene, etc. There is so much more to marriage than being in love with the person. I know several couples that are better friends now than when they were married.

perky you should go for it!! it is not like he is not trying. he's trying to get it fixed. it seems like he really cares for you!!! it sounds like you care for him too!!! SAY YES!!!!!!!!!

As being the duchess of your own throne - you have come to realize not everything that glitters may not be as shiny as one hoped for. Thus, Miss Perky only you can make this decision. You know from past experiences how to proceed - but, remember do so very cautiously. Do what you think is best.

As being the duchess of your own throne - you have come to realize not everything that glitters may not be as shiny as one hoped for. Thus, Miss Perky only you can make this decision. You know from past experiences how to proceed - but, remember do so very cautiously. Do what you think is best.

Thursday, Thursday!

Just from reading I can agree with some. But it seems that most everyone is perfect and has never drove over the speed limit or rolled threw a stop sign. I know better. I drive a truck and I see all the rediculous things people do in a car and especially in front of a truck. I used to be an MP in the Army. And I responded to my share of fights at the NCO club. Which is a club/bar were supervisors ( Sergeants) go to relax so I know that even older and those that are suppose to be ones to look up to and respect screw up and fight. It's life. The day we quit is the day we die.
I was 19 and my husband was 23 when we were married and have been now for 14 years. We started dating in July and that September we were married. People tried talking me out of it but I knew it was meant to be and I was right. He had a hot head and a temper then but has mellowed. So everyone changes over time it all depends on the depth within themselves that they change.
Someone also made it sound as though you have to have a degree to be happy you don't you just need to do what makes you happy and do it. Perky thats what you need to do is do what makes you happy and if choosing or not accomplishes that and not have any regrets then thats what you should do.

Just from reading I can agree with some. But it seems that most everyone is perfect and has never drove over the speed limit or rolled threw a stop sign. I know better. I drive a truck and I see all the rediculous things people do in a car and especially in front of a truck. I used to be an MP in the Army. And I responded to my share of fights at the NCO club. Which is a club/bar were supervisors ( Sergeants) go to relax so I know that even older and those that are suppose to be ones to look up to and respect screw up and fight. It's life. The day we quit is the day we die.
I was 19 and my husband was 23 when we were married and have been now for 14 years. We started dating in July and that September we were married. People tried talking me out of it but I knew it was meant to be and I was right. He had a hot head and a temper then but has mellowed. So everyone changes over time it all depends on the depth within themselves that they change.
Someone also made it sound as though you have to have a degree to be happy you don't you just need to do what makes you happy and do it. Perky thats what you need to do is do what makes you happy and if choosing or not accomplishes that and not have any regrets then thats what you should do.

Perky,
I think you should just go for it. I kind of have the same background as "Dude" and that was years ago, and I have completly changed my life around. My background will always be there, but that doesn't mean that's who I am now. So, I say keep movin forward with him! Good Luck girl!

Just wanted to know if there is full disclosure here? You have spoke to legal issues in "Dudes" background, what about personal issues? I think it's time to bring out the lie detector! Given ALL of this new information I think we as listeners have a right to know that you are taking all the necessary precautions to keep this girl safe. I do love the "idea", it sounds romantic, but it's not being done in the correct manor. The idea was that two strangers could fall in love over the phone/computer etc. But you're not giving them time to do this. If you really want this to work you should stick to the premis and let Perky get to know and truly fall in love with a prospective groom. And don't be hard on a girl who works 12 hour night shifts at a hospital. No doubt she's running her tail off all night that usually lasts more like 14 hours. If she's like the rest of us she probably gets less than 5 hours of sleep per day- Of course she's going to fall asleep after being up 20 hours! I like the masquerade ball idea.

Just wanted to know if there is full disclosure here? You have spoke to legal issues in "Dudes" background, what about personal issues? I think it's time to bring out the lie detector! Given ALL of this new information I think we as listeners have a right to know that you are taking all the necessary precautions to keep this girl safe. I do love the "idea", it sounds romantic, but it's not being done in the correct manor. The idea was that two strangers could fall in love over the phone/computer etc. But you're not giving them time to do this. If you really want this to work you should stick to the premis and let Perky get to know and truly fall in love with a prospective groom. And don't be hard on a girl who works 12 hour night shifts at a hospital. No doubt she's running her tail off all night that usually lasts more like 14 hours. If she's like the rest of us she probably gets less than 5 hours of sleep per day- Of course she's going to fall asleep after being up 20 hours! I like the masquerade ball idea.

Perky,
You and dude need to talk things out . People do change . You both need to decide if you want to be married to one another . Its up to you Follow your hearts . Good Luck .

I love the morning show and have enjoyed the "Two Strangers & a Wedding" however I feel it has started to spin out of control.
The idea was great but when it comes down to two people making a lifetime committment, I feel there is simply not enough time left to make the decision.
I will not judge "Dude" as I was a parent of four sons and realize things happen.
I will not judge "Perkly" as I am sure she is a sincere young woman. The only thing I can judge is the intensity that it takes to make that lifetime committment and I think that even you Cornbread now realize in your heart that the time needed to ensure this is a perfect choice for both people is not available.
I would encourage you to pull back from the wedding date and perhaps simply coach the two of them in finding if they really are life partners.....

i have enjoyed the 2strangers and a wedding...like most of the other listeners , i too agree that perky seems to very mature. i am not sure that if i were in her shoes i would be able to continue after what she has had to contend with....way to go perky. follow your heart hon and things will work out. best of luck to you and whomever you choose, after all it truly is your decision.

How many more ONE MORE DAY is there going to be. It was something to try, it did not work. At least the married people out there know how hard is its to find a good single person. Dating now is not easy. Everyone says the want the same thing but this just shows how hard it is to find the right person. I know. I am a good person but have not found Mister Right again. If you 20's and 30's think its hard wait until you are 54. Maybe when WIL has the singles party they are talking about we will find Mr. Right, and hopefully not a bunch of men that are the Mr. Wrong.
I was not for this 2 strangers & a Wedding in the first week but then I totally got on board. Now I think its time to end it all and move on. I think there should have been more time before the wedding for 2 strangers to know each other. I think the back ground checks were great and I think if I ever meet the one, this is something I will also do.
We love you guys at WIL but its time to let it go.

Cornbread.........that is what was meant by weeding out the loosers..........you should have dug that deep into "all" the grooms...........not wait until it came this far. Depending on Dudes reasoning and age at the time of his behavior could mean a lot of difference. He may very well indeed be calmed down now and realize the hell he was living for himself before and now ready to love and be loved which may very well be just what he needs if Perky is willing to do this. If she is not..........I blame you Cornbread if her heart gets broken again. I believe in giving him another chance if she is.

perky, don't give up on dude, i have been married 20 yrs and my husband had a drinking problem even before we were married. i truly believe dude can handle it if he wants to and he has your support. try to remember this is real life and no one in this world is perfect.

Marriage is hard enough already without starting off trying to deal with DUIs and legal problems. If all these had occured 2-3 years ago, I might chalk it up to immaturity and give him a chance (we all made mistakes when we were young). However, he is still making poor choices. I understand he has to get to work but he is driving on a suspended license. He is breaking the law NOW. I am not saying the guy is a loser. I am not saying he isn't capable of change. But Perky should commit until he has changed.

Thursday's Bride ... Will you marry me? I think you are the goods!

Perky, I think everyone has a past and I believe everyone can change if they want to. I heard Dude on the radio station and I think all of his mistake in the past are behind him. I geninely feel that he really starting to care for you. As far as driving without license alot of people do it so what big deal he is trying to fix it. it not like he commited murder and didn't tell. I just think he was trying to find the best time and way to tell you. I don't think he wasn't being very dishonest with you.

Seems like people are all trying to cut this guy a break but many make a good point ...how responsible is he acting now. I had a good friend with a DWI and she was allowed driving privlidges, to work only. This meant everytime she needed anything she had to call on her friends. Grocery trips, hair/nail appt's, even doctor appt's. It sucked, but she learned from her experience, she didn't take it lightly, and she obeyed the law. This guy admits not even knowing that his license was suspended. If you're working with an attorney to clear things up, don't you think this would be a pretty big moment. This guy has shown a history of recklessness and to this point has't seemed to learn or grow from any of it. Just seems like a smooth talker. Perky you should run like ****. You should take that honeymoon and move into that big old house all by your lonesome, and date!

In the words of Pat's wife Traci about Monday's groom run fast now Perky and don't look back!

In the words of Pat's wife Traci about Monday's groom run fast now Perky and don't look back!

In the words of Pats wife Traci about Mondays groom run fast now Perky and dont look back!

Hey "I want the full "Package". Package was Friday's bride, not Thursday.

PERKY, OPEN YOUR HEART,NO ONE IS PERFECT,GOOD LUCK TO BOTH OF YOU

There were two paths this experiment could have taken: A radio media success story with credibility or a media disaster not consistent with the much marketed experiment.

Perky ( not a label that is fair ) has represented herself in such a way that won the hearts of most of the voting listeners of the program. She clearly described the type of person she would be willing to marry sight unseen and without the more traditional relationship builiding experience.

Dude was introduced partially to address the obvious stress and anxiety that occurred when Perky was told that two of her potential choices decided they could not continue. The other motivation was to help save the experiment.

Dude's profile is not consistent with the description of Perky's ideal husband. His behavior suggests a lifestyle preference that doesn't align with her quality of life requirements. Dude wants to be around bar life that is very time consuming. It doesn't give a young family an opportunity to interact with other family members as often as is necessary to develop close bonding, something Perky treasures.

Dude's past and current issues with traffic tickets, fighting and spending time in jail is simply a description of a troubled person. This is baggage that is difficult to address and requires more than a statement that suggests that his behavior is not a preference.

Dude's statement in response to WIL's questions today was all defensive. His posture was one of it is ok to fight because I am a Marine and that is what Marines do or I am a victim for traffic violations because I live in a small town. Marines should not be profiled as individuals who can not control their behavior and uses their fighting training to resolve or address issues. Police offices should not be profiled either, suggesting they do not know how to do their jobs.

WIL should consider the Dude option as an experiment disaster waiting to happen. It seems that the pressure is on Perky to make a decision because of the process and media exposure. If Perky makes the decision to go forward with this experiment it could have a significant credibility risk to WIL.

The current situation has clearly changed my opinion of the intent of the experiment and makes me feel that WIL may be willing to accept the chance that Perky may make the decision to marry Dude and that it will not fail.

I do not know what triggered a more thorough investigation into Dude's background, but something did and it revealed many concerns. That alone should have been enough to look at other alternatives.

The voice of God and the Devil are barely distinguishable. He knows if his license is suspended. He knows everything going on in the courts with his case. They'll mail him a copy of everything entered. If you have a connection and feel he's the one, you owe it to yourself to be sure, even if it means not getting married to him right now and waiting to see how he manages his situation and life going forward. It's still not a race to the alter. Keep in mind when people first start a relationship, they're on their best behavior. The "other" stuff comes out over time and the worse it is, generally the longer it takes to surface. The rest of your life is worth 6 months...a year....or how ever long it takes to be sure.

I agree...I'm tired of the one more day. Just make a decision and stick with it...this is dragging out too long, causing a lot of confusion and doubt even in supporters of this experiment.

Perky and Dude good luck...but I'm tired of waiting!

Hey everyone...I'm VERY far away from Illinois, but I watch this daily and listen to the audio and video clips almost as much as I check myspace...so its obsessive. My brother, he's a good guy who has made some kind of rotten decisions in the past...but who hasn't? He's the sweetest, most hard working, caring person that right girl could ever find. He hasn't been this happy, or optimistic in a very long time...and he's finally getting his life on track, and I think Perky would be a great addition to his life. You have no idea the wonderful "DUDE" my brother really is and Perky...you would be the most lucky girl in the world to have him. He would never speak horribly to you, hit you, or leave you abandoned, but be there every night for you...trust me, he's a great guy...choose him for who he is now, don't not choose him for who he was in the past.
Thats my peice!

Perky,

I am a mother of 4 sons. All of them got into trouble with traffic tickets in their late teens and early twenties. It took them a long time to grow up and realize the trouble they were causing themselves and everyone that loved them. One of just turned 26 and it took him several years to get his tickets and license taken care of. This is a very slow process even with a lawyer. The lawyer works a slowly as he can so that everything is cleared up. My son did not know if his license was still suspended because the lawyer was still working on it and this takes time. You need to do what you feels is right in your heart and in your head, but I believe that Dude is going to be fine and that he is being responsible, now. You must remember that all of this happened at least 3 years ago. Good luck to the both of you!

ok ive been following this and all i have to say is good luck perky!!!! if dude is what you want then good for you

There's another video from their date kind of hidden on the site. http://www.toastedrav.com/post/961

I agree totally with dude's sister. A lot of people have things in their past that they are not proud of, but it doesn't mean he is a terrible person. It seems to me he has changed. Know Dude in the present, not who he was in the past. People do change.

I myself don't understand why she stays in this experiment, but I'm not her. I also think that it is unfair if she judges Dude on this issue, as she herself has stated that she can be irrepsonsible and is a partier and is looking for a stable guy to keep her stable. If she truly wants stability, she would find it in herself.

Ok, this is getting sooo out of hand. Now come one, a few tickets, convenctions, (noting serious) GIVE THIS MAN A BREAK!!!!! Perky he is trying to clean him self up.... He seams like a very nice guy... An i'm sure that is all behind him. If he was worried about it, he knew what he was getting into, and he wouldn't of went this far... I believe he is a changed person, an he will be what we all dream off, AWESOME, LOVING, CARING, RESPECTING, HUSBAND THAT WE ALL DREAM OF..... Good luck... love

Ok, this is getting sooo out of hand. Now come one, a few tickets, convenctions, (noting serious) GIVE THIS MAN A BREAK!!!!! Perky he is trying to clean him self up.... He seams like a very nice guy... An i'm sure that is all behind him. If he was worried about it, he knew what he was getting into, and he wouldn't of went this far... I believe he is a changed person, an he will be what we all dream off, AWESOME, LOVING, CARING, RESPECTING, HUSBAND THAT WE ALL DREAM OF..... Good luck... love

There is a huge listenership that has been sucked into this experiment, and its funny how everyone is so quick to form an opinion and offer advice. Remember... the videos we are seeing and calls clips we are hearing are just that.. clips... not the entire conversation.

None of us knows what has been said and not aired. The information is all out there on the table now, and it is up to Perky, with the help of her family, to make the decision that is right for her and not one that will please everyone else or disappoint everyone else.

Marriage is for life... and she knows that... that is why the one more day thing has drug on and on.... how many of you would make a life decision like this only to find out more bits and pieces the next day that may have affected their decision.

The two of them were first introduced on the phone less than a week ago... give them the weekend to talk things out. I believe Perky and her family are all smart even to figure out if he is being completely truthful with her or if he is blowing smoke to keep her.

It will be interesting to hear the show on Monday... but like many of you have said... if it comes down to one more day then again.... Im done listening.

There is no one on this earth who should stand in judgement of this guy. Everyone makes mistakes and maybe he really didnt believe he was lying. He did tell on his application that he had received a DWI, after all when you hire a lawyer it is to take the worry off of your shoulders. Give the guy a break, he is trying.

Should've gone with the people's vote for the groom, like you did the bride. FRIDAY,FRIDAY,FRIDAY!!!!! NATURE BOY, NATURE BOY, NATURE BOY!!!!!!

I agree with Dude sister also. Don't judge him for what he has done in the past but what he is doing in the future. I believe everyone can change. Perky you and your family have a big decision to make. and think wisely could be letting go of someone who makes you happy. and you won't know that if you judge for the wrong things he has done in the past. I think Dude sounds like a great guy. he knew coming into this that all his dirty laundry was going to be aired so he really didn't hide anything in my opipion.

Warning-- warning. Please don't get involved with "Dude". Drinking and driving and barroom brawls-- you know what that could mean? A much higher than average likelihood of wife-beating. (Perhaps the only reason he doesn't have a record for that yet is because he's never been married.) Maybe he's sweet now, but so are most wife-beaters when they're sober, so what. So this 2 Strangers and a Wedding thing was a bust, nobody is surprised. It's not your fault, Perky, it was just a bad idea from the beginning. This is not how good marriages are made and that's what you want, isn't it?

Maybe I'm late, but better late than never. WAY TOO SHORT OF A TIME FOR A LIFE ALTERING DECISION. If it were an arranged marriage, you wouldnt even have this much time or discussion, but this is not an arranged marriage. I can understand the concept, but the plan is VERY flawed.

I thought this guy "Dude" was the real deal until today. Now I think he is no better than Monday's groom.

Honestly, at this point I think you need to scrap this whole idea and chalk it up to an idea that sounded good on the surface but just won't work.

Frankly, I am disappointed that WIL didn't do a more thorough background check on all of the applicants BEFORE they were allowed to even participate.

Now I have to wonder just what else could turn up......

Well it has been layed on the table, he is trying to get all the issues resolved, why did it take so long? My guess would be that he didn't have the finances to pay the fines or hire an attorney. I say kudos to the parents that they left it out there for him to take care of and not bail him out. Dude, now you need to be careful, Thanks to someone bringing to the table that your license can not be reinstated til May, I am sure there is a cop sitting around the corner waiting for you to drive past him/her. This is his past and should remain there.

In his past? I don't think so! He has a DWI and several other arrests. Those don't just go away. They are there forever and the DWI means his insurance rates are going to be through the roof for quite some time. On top of that, if he gets caught driving while suspended, he will be revoked for a year (only adding to the insurance premium which is already gonna be more than some folks make per month). No, "Will it be", this is not in his past, it is his present and it will be something he will still be dealing with long after the freebie year in the house and counseling are over. What happens then? I can tell you........ In the words of an old country song, "Our D-I-V-O-R-C-E becomes final today..........."

IMHO, not enough was done to ensure the participants in this experiment were in this for the right reasons and without a bunch of baggage.

I think it's time to scrap the idea and move on.

watch it perky he sounds good on the phone but if you think about it he works in a bar has some tickets and maybe a DWI and a few altercations I would be very skeptical i work in the criminal justice system he sounds like the path he's been down is a pattern that may be hard to out grow at this point not to mention if he works around drinkers how can he fix the bad habits--think real hard it doesnt make him a bad person just some one who makes bad decisions
take your time this is a life time - I married at the age of 18 and 28 years later still married to the same man- i took my vowels very seriously as every one should

Maybe I missed something a long the way but if you are trying to find out all you can about someone who could be your future husband why would you fall asleep. I would think you would use some toothpicks, drink a gallon of coffee, have your mom, uncle, or papa with you to keep you awake. I think this whole thing has become a big joke. I\'m switchin stations!

ohhh come on give the guy a break.......
a few accidents while he was singel.... give him a break... you go PERKY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ohhh come on give the guy a break.......
a few accidents while he was singel.... give him a break... you go PERKY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Marine or no marine, Dude has a drinking problem, and typically is in denial (maybe the small town police are keeping an eye on him for good reason). I think I remember him saying he couldn't wait to own a bar one day. All things considered that's probably not a good idea. Perky if you are ready to commit to a lifetime of helping Dude stay sober, then go for it. Marriage isn't an experiment. It not only requires love, but it takes hard work, maturity, patience, and absolute dedication and commitment to your partner for the rest of your life. Perky you need to re-evaluate. Dude you need to get a job that doesn't involve alcohol. Good luck to you both.

Tabitha,

His record and problems are not a "few accidents" they are some pretty major INCIDENTS that are not going to just disappear because someone decides he is a good guy. They are going to follow him around for a very long time. Should Perky marry him, they will become her issues too.

I could see past a DWI if that was all there was there. But he has shown a pattern of blatant disregard for some pretty basic laws. That isn't something that can be ignored just because he says we (and Perky) should. They give us some insight into his character and the view we have is not a pretty one.

everyone makes mistakes... and people change, but has he?

i'm on no one's side. i wish them both the best. i have NO idea what i would do if i was in her shoes, and trust me, I'm glad it's not me having to make this life-changing decision.

i wish you both the best of luck.

Caitlin,
Yes, everyone makes mistakes but not everyone learns from them and not everyone changes as a result of them. The fact this guy is blaming the police for something HE did (even the cops cannot arrest you if you don't commit a crime) and is refusing to accept an integral part of the punishment for it (the suspension) tells me, he has not learned the intended lesson and has not accepted responsibility for his mistakes.

There is no way he can change until he learns the simple truth that he alone is to blame for his past indiscretions.

This is why I don't think you should "experiment" with peoples lives. Especially when you are legally melding finances, families, emotions, etc. Have these people been screened for STD's? You didn't even check his driving record!Are you guys paying for the divorce if there is one? Because that's going to be a lot more costly than the wedding. It's not that I don't want these people to be happy. I hope they turn out to be ecstatically happy. I just feel like this was done for ratings more than any other reason. And I'm worried about ALL the involved parties. Including any children that might unexpectedly come along. What happens then if this doesn't work out? Is WIL paying to raise the kids? If you really want to help single people, have singles functions where lots of people can meet lots of other people and make up their own minds after a lot of deliberation instead of talking to someone on Friday and scheduling a marriage on Tuesday.

Wil is still a great station..nobody could expect all of this.........I thought it was crazy plan and I never expected this.

Good lucky perky...and all of the people involved in this.

S

Fact still remains the people who are saying "GO FOR IT!" don't have to live with the consequences if they're wrong about him changing. Would these same people really tell their own daughter to "GO FOR IT" even though their daughter said, "If only talked to him on the phone for less than a week. I'm not in love with him yet, but I hope that will develop after we're married. Sure he has all these behavioral and legal issues and 'says' he's taking care of them and when we're married, I'll have to deal with the financial burdens as well. Oh yeah...He wants to run a bar and I realize it's a very risky and difficult business to be successful in. Not to mention he'll be in the same environment that led to his arrests, DUI, and other stuff." Is that the best these people think their daughter can do and would they honestly encourage their own daughter to jump into that situation because they MIGHT fall in love after they're married? Whether others have turned their lives around is irrelevant. It's like going to the casino thinking you'll win big because other people have. It's not the good fortunes of others P has to be concerned with. It's the consequences if she's not one of the fortunate few.

You can bet that WIL wasn't expecting all this either. Cornbread said himself they were hoping to have a groom by Tuesday, then he also said they were planning on a proposal Friday. They got neither. All they have is a place booked for Wednesday, but who's going to be there? I hope it's not Perky.

To put the situation in perspective. Encouraging P to "GO FOR IT" is no different than encouraging a drunk to drive because, "It worked for me and others have made it." It's ignoring the consequences of poor judgement and unnecessary risk. These same people aren't the ones who have to face the families when "Oops...I guess I was wrong. I thought they could pull the marriage off. Oh well." or "Bummer he took out that family of 6. I guess he wasn't as prepared to drive drunk as I thought. Geez...Don't understand that. I do it all the time and get home just fine." Face it. Dude thought he'd make it home driving drunk. He thought he could get away with driving on a suspended license. When he keeps getting caught, he apparently thinks it's unfair because others get away with it. As far as "Marines fight". "Marines get drunk in bars too". We've got the fighting and drinking confirmation and he's admittedly a Marine through and through. If the argument is fighting in bars is expected, we have to assume drinking in them is part of the "code" as well. Or are people naive enough to think the situation is, "Dude....I think it's great you drink soda and aren't partying like you're one of us, but you're still expected to go get in a fight." Sorry, but you can't convince me that he's so passionate about wanting to be a Marine, but at the same time would dare to dishonor himself and not meet their "expectations".

Did anyone expect anything different?

Cornbred "Lets find people that want to get married without seeing each other."
Suits "Lets only give them 2 weeks to get to know each other before meeting at the alter."
Cornbred "Think we could get anything other than desperate loosers?"
Suits "No. "

Suits 1 CB 0

I have been quiet through all this but I need to speak up. I think this has been a mess from the beginning. I really liked Thursday and Wed and I was upset when you threw him under the bus because he wanted more time. COME ON CB, you said he knew the rules but how many times have you let Perky change the rules. She always asked for more time and you said nothing. It takes two and you are treating the bride so much better than the grooms. You also said sorry you picked boys for perky and not men!! She is 22 and maybe that is all that applyed because I am close to 40 and there isn't a guy I talked to my age that would go for a child at 22 to marry. It's funny how you found the perfect guy and he has a bad background. For some reason you act like she is the bride of all brides and her past is not perfect. You keep saying she is mature but you keep calling her a little girl, well all guys should run because the day her "groom" needed more time and she hung up on him and would not call in because she was pouting and things did not go her way it showed how immature she is. Didn't anyone catch this!!! Also, for her uncle to ask this guy to change professions if perky got jealous was HORRIBLE. You can't ask anyone to change for a girl and he should know that, what would happen if he wanted Perky to change jobs?? Besides if you remember she is not jealous is what she said when you asked her how she felt about her guy going to the east side, so why sould she be jealous. I think her family is too overprotective and she is spoiled and you are feeding fuel to the fire and trying to give her everythign she wants and not being fair to the grooms. I knew with the divorce rate 50% this was a disaster from the beginning, and it started with the age of the bride.

Can we make the time for the weekend go by any faster? We would like to know the out-come on Monday. Oh Well, With all the busy episodes from the Holiday weekend - Hopefully, that will make the time go by a little faster. Can't wait!
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One more thing...

For all you people saying crap like "I've been silent till now but I just never thought this would work."

SHUT UP!!

If you didn't have the testicular fortitude to come here and voice your doubts or state the obvious when it was unpopular. Those of you posting things of this nature sound like idiots.

As for those of you that supported this "union of losers" perhaps now is a good time to eat some crow with your newly formed opinions.

All in all i am ok with the outcome. Although with the weekend to cool off I doubt I will get to hear Perky cry on the radio. Oh well I guess you just can't have everything in life.

We agree with you. The majority of individuals we know that married people about half their age are regretting that major decision. That comes from both parties wishing they had not made that error at all. Thank you(view & sharing).

There is something else that's been bothering me about this whole thing. This was supposed to be a "blind" falling in love, but Perky was on the morning news with just her face blurred out. We know her body style, her hair color and cut, and let's face it, weight is a big concern for many when it comes to being attracted to someone. Did she have the same chance to view the grooms?

Perky, Dude sounds like he is on his way to responsiblity but to me it doe's not sound like he is there yet. Dude may be the right guy but I think the timing is wrong. As much as I would love for you to marry in PSH with Corn Bread officiating I do not see it as the right thing just yet. It seems that the rush to make "it" happen got in the way of making the right thing happen. At age 22 rushing for a few weeks to make a long term (hopefully) 80 year commitment doe's not seem like a great idea. I'm not saying it could not happen. If everything with one of the grooms had gone real well and all the pieces had fallen into place just right then Fantastic! From what I can tell though things havent. Ultimately it is your choice. Don't compromise. If everything is not 100% right then maybe it is not right. If Dude is right for you and you are right for Dude then how can time to sort it all out be wrong. Jumping into court issues and multiple drunken incidents is not the way to start a new life.
CB, Have you considered throwing a coming out party at PSH? Maybe these two can make it all happen in a year or two after Dude gets his baggage taken care of and demonstrates long term responsibility.

Perky:
I'm probably old enough to be your Mom, but I'm not trying to be. If you had a connection with Thursday - even on a "friend" basis, I think you should pursue him. I have been married multiple times and the MAN I am married to now was one of my best friends. We hung out together for more than 4 years until I married my last husband - who was Jekyl and Hyde. When my present husband contacted me again after 4 more years (I left my other husband 3 years earlier) I realized that the one for me was right in front of my face and it took me that long to realize it. We have been married for 14 years now and it was THE BEST thing I've done in my life - next to having my children. When you get to be the age that your children are on their own and it's just you and him - conversation and friendship is truly all you have left. When I was your age and going through husbands like water - I never believed it either, but now that I'm here - it is ever so true. Please think about what this will mean to you - not just now, but 30 years from now. I have many regrets in the choices I have made for husbands in the past, but my best friend was the best choice that I should have made 22 years ago. Good luck to you and God Bless whatever decision you make.

Helen,

Perhaps you should think through what you just said. if you had some vague friendship connection then maybe that is the way to go, because I married my BEST friend and it worked. They aren't best friends. They have talked what 4 hours on the phone?

This is the type of thinking that makes this experiment IDIOTIC. Come on people we all have great stories on how someone married this type of guy or that type of guy. I will bet that each of them was over something more than 4 - 10 hours of phone conversations.

Is love blind? Maybe.
Are people desperate enough to marry because of a radio contest? I hope not.

Lets get real this is not a true test of whether love is blind, it is more of a test of how stupid are people when they get a chance to be on the radio.

ok Chris..I have sat here and read your idiotic comments. We all know how you feel about EVERYTHING. I'm not really sure why you keep saying "desperate people"..That has nothing to do with it. You are obviously a very unhappy person..Have fun sitting on your computer all day blogging!! Man..you must have an exciting life!

I was involved with a guy who in his past had dui's traffic tickets He was considered A
HTO habitual traffic offender He got in fights , drank ect. This was all before we meet .After we meet he started to change his life & became responsible. Took care of all the things he needed to. Got it all straighten out. & he did ,Because he had a Good woman to show him that this is what he needed to do .To this day he has had done nothing bad. That was 15 years ago .So what I am saying is sometimes it just takes a good woman to change someone He has started that before. He meet you .I think he can & will continue If he has the right lady in his life . That could be you......Good Luck

And I was involved with a good woman who was previously married to a guy who repeatedly got DUIs, ended up in jail multiple times, continued to drive, and didn't think the laws applied to him. Sorry but whether you want to admit it or not, it's not the woman, it's the person and their values. It's there environment. The fact that he says he's a changed man, means nothing when the turns around and says he's changing nothing. Still wants to be a Marine (Expected to engage in bar fights). Wants to not only go to bars, but own one. Rejects court orders not to drive as not applicable to him, or as him being deserving of the punishment for his actions. Actions aren't consistent with the words and that is a BIG red flag.... It's deception. People immediately encourage women (and men) to get out of abusive relationships because he guy won't change. They throw out the, "They all say it won't happen again, but it always does and gets worse" argument. Would you encourage a friend, daughter, sister, or other to "Go ahead. Stay with it. He sounds so sincere. He made a mistake." How many beatings should then endure? Do these type of people deserve multiple chances because they "MIGHT" change their ways, or do the significant others deserve the right to happiness and a life free of this type of turmoil? If we encourage people to stay with people like this on the hopes they'll change because they sound sincere, shouldn't we encourage women to stay in abusive relationships every time a guy says "It won't happen again" because "They sound sincere"? Cut your loses....Have more respect for yourself and sense of self worth and let him accept the consequences for his actions. P didn't create his situation, and she's certainly not obligated to stick around to help clean up his messes, when there's really nothing to support his claims of change other than having a lawyer.

Chris, don't tell me to shut up. First of all I was against this from the beginning and I tried calling in when CB asked us to give our opinion but it was not towards the positive so it was never put thru or on the air. It seems like when you try and state something against what CB or the morning show feel it just doesn't get put on the air. Funny how they always get positive callers isn't it!! Anyhow I am not against Perky I just don't feel she was the right person for this, I was mature at 22 and had a degree but I was mature with 22 year olds...not 30 year year olds. It is like a differnt life and I got married at 30 and it has been a wild ride, we even dated 6 years and lived together 4 but that certificate changes everything. I think perky should slow down and enjoy life until about 30 and settle down then....she don't know it but these are the best single years of her life...it all changes after kids especially and it is hard to remember that life even existed. Go on trips and have a fun single life. Perky was not my pick from the start and I still feel she is too young and immature...when things don't go her way and when she is older and this does not work out and she finds the man of her dreams she will realise this, but until then she will have to live and learn. Unfortunately marriage is a big mistake to make and it will affect her forever in the future.

It's really disappointing that people feel this is what P deserves and the best she can do for herself. It's frightening to think WIL thinks he's "The best of the best, and what's best for her". I'd be insulted if they presented him as what they felt was good for my daughter. It all says, "Go ahead P and settle so we can get a marriage out of this."

I read a blog earlier that said this person knew her husband as a child ALSO....... Has perky and dude known each other since childhood??? this whole thing has become a big JOKE! She should have just married the hulk! Good luck girl!

Tim,
Someone posted a blog that looked like it was me who wrote it, but I think they were just addressing it to me. I have never met "Dude".

was referring to julybabes comment on the top third of these blogs

The brides did go through a background check because That is the reason I didn't want to fill out the application.... I myself have had q few traffic violations in the past. NEVER a DWI but driving with no insurance, didn't have my car properly registered and I wasn't carrying insurance. This was during a bad ime in my life after my divorce of 15 years. I new this would come out and I prob wouldn't even get picked to begin with even though everything is legal on my end now.

Perky, I think that these things happen and he sounds so sincere. I believe he has changed and trying to get his attorney to help him fix the problems.

I believe alot of people are making alot more out of this than it really is.

Perky, I agree with Sappington. He hasn't been convicted of anything except traffic violations.

I wish CB wouldn't have made such a BIG DEAL out of this and made Dude look so bad.

I'd like to see a full background check on him. But it wouldn't matter b/c I love CB and would continue listening.

But Friday it just seemed like they were dragging it out and playing more commercials than I ever heard. I was listening all morning to see what happened and I had to go into work without knowing----because of the number of commercials.

I don't believe this info should have been kept from Perky, but it could have been done in private. They (Perky and Dude)had already discussed some of this. It ruined the proposal.

How big of a factor is rtings playing here?

Perky, This is such a hard decision! I wish they hadn't set the wedding so soon. For some reason I origianlly thought it was going to be a June wedding....?

I was married at age 21 to a man who was 22. He went out drinking often and I thought it was just a "stage" he was going through and once we settled in things would change. Well they never did. I was married for 12 years and probably only stayed together that long "for the kids". We were divorced 5 years ago and he has since been married and divorced. His wife attends Alonon b/c she feels he chose alcohol over their marriage. He's very charming, nice, sweet (my ex) and very good looking and women are deceived.

Good luck no matter what.

Is anyone else wondering if all of this was planned from the beginning? I too have been following this on my way to work and still not having any answers by the time I get there. It seems if this had worked out like "planned," Perky would have picked her groom last week. Instead, she hesitated over her final decision, and this went on over a weekend until Monday. Monday, she was still not sure. Then came Dude... He should have been "chosen" last week, but instead, a "dilemma" came up which put us in wonder over another weekend. I agree with the person that said Cornbread made too much of a big deal about it. I think this was all planned in order to extend the drama, and keep people listening. Otherwise, would all of us be hanging on as we are for the last week?

Is anyone else wondering if all of this was planned from the beginning? I too have been following this on my way to work and still not having any answers by the time I get there. It seems if this had worked out like "planned," Perky would have picked her groom last week. Instead, she hesitated over her final decision, and this went on over a weekend until Monday. Monday, she was still not sure. Then came Dude... He should have been "chosen" last week, but instead, a "dilemma" came up which put us in wonder over another weekend. I agree with the person that said Cornbread made too much of a big deal about it. I think this was all planned in order to extend the drama, and keep people listening. Otherwise, would all of us be hanging on as we are for the last week?

I don't know if this specifically was planned from the beginning, but the boost in ratings was definitely planned. I used to listen to WIL exclusively. This has really turned me off. Of course Perky is unsure and the groom isn't there yet. This is for life! It's not just a day to get dressed up and play in front of your friends. This is legal, binding, and even if they get divorced, their lives will be forever intertwined. Even their credit reports will be affected by the other for years to come. And you want to let CB pick the five guys you have to choose from? Perky, be careful. I'm concerned for you - and Dude. This doesn't have to happen, at least not now, if you're not ready just because it would make CB happy. If it's right, it'll be right next month and even next year. Be sure before you take such a huge step affecting you forever. I wish you all the happiness whatever you decide.

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I have to agree with z. While I wish Perky and Dude the best, and if they decided to get married I hope it works out for them. But they both have to remember that not having a wedding would not be the end for them. They could always decided to just date and see where it goes from there. Good Luck.

One reason I think this might be fixed is: Perky "fell asleep" during the most important part on Friday. I understand she works alot of long hours but come on! Drink some coffee. Is she comitted to this? I'm beginning to wonder if it was planned.

Before "2 Strangers and a Wedding" I thought CB was going to do something to help many, many of us single people in St. Louis.

Not sure what to make out of it all. I bet alot of people are turned off and quit listening.

It sounds like Perky is a sweet girl but does she want a marriage or a wedding?

I'm wondering what will happen on Monday. I didn't even get to hear the end of the program on Friday.

I bet they keep us hanging again.........

I know I'm not listening anymore

Jen - I agree with you 100%. How come she fell asleep? Is there something wrong with her that she can't stay awake for something as important as this? I think it is fixed too because they just keep dragging it out. One day they said they were going to annouce the bride that WE picked then they had us vote AGAIN on Perky and Package (for the record I voted for Fancy then Package)They never let us hear the final vote count. I can't quit listening now I have to know what happens. It is just like a reality tv show. Perky will probally be sleeping on Monday. If this does happen I sure hope she can get up in time for a 8AM wedding.

Another thing I hope someone can answer for me is how does WIL or any radio station make money by us listening? I don't listen to the commercials I flip stations; if I do listen the the commercials I surely don't buy things just because I heard it on the radio. I can't wait until this is over so I can go back to listening to my rock cds!

For the record..
Yes, I feel asleep Friday..I admit it was terrible timing! How about you work a 15 hour night shift..(I don't normally work nights) working your butt off taking care of patients..and I have rarely been able to sleep the past few weeks. I closed my eyes during a commercial and was out! Sorry if you can't seem to understand being COMPLETELY drained.

I just wanted to take a moment to thank everyone for being as civil as they have been on this blog. I understand my past raises considerable questions about me as a person but I assure everyone that this is my past, not the person I am today or will be in the future. Everyone on here is entitled to their own views and opinions and I appreciate everyones, but ultimately this decision is mine and Perky's to make. I know that some believe this is all scripted but as said before ya'll not even the best writers could make this stuff up. That and I am a proud person and wouldnt let myself be run over the coals like I have been if I didnt truly have heartfelt feelings for this woman we have all grown to know and love. I know it seems as though it's been a long wait for ya'll, and trust me you have no idea how long it feels for the people truly involved in this deal, but trust me the end result I believe will truly be worth the wait. Oh and about Perky falling asleep; ya'll need to give her a break. She had just finished working a 15 hour shift on her feet and taking care of those people that needed help. So yes she deserved to be a little tired and wore out, but I truly believe it was an honest mistake, and if anyone believes in forgiving and second chances its me. To end this blog (which will more than likely be the only one I write) I would like to leave all of you with two quotes the first for all those who would like to pass judgement on me, and the second is something a friend of mine has said to staff members for the show.1) "Ye shall not judge lest ye be judged yourself", and 2) "Life isnt about the mistakes you make; its about the lessons you learn from your mistakes"...Thank you once again to everyone and Happy Easter to all of you.

Perky..... Sweet Perky. Missy, I do understand being completely drained. I have Crohns disease, I have and raised two wonderful children on my own for 17 years. I care for a 91 year old woman whom I have to lift and transfer many times EVERYDAY. My daughter has Crohns also and she has been hospitalized many times recently and as I lie and watch her sleep @ Carinal Glennon after a day of invasive tests I can honestly say I do know what being COMPLETELY DRAINED is.

I just don't know why the station doesn't have someone talking to you on the line to make sure you're awake? Didn't you go on the date the night before? Or were you working?

I'm sure whoever monitors this site will delete this because it doesn't project the "sweet image" of Perky.

I've got nothing against you & more power to you for the job you do. I just thought it was very STRANGE.

a 39 yr old been around the block mom

Dude, I believe it should be up to you. You sound like a great person and I hope things work out for you both. I can't wait to see the wedding which will be beautiful I'm sure.

We all have things in our past (see my blog above) and you are very brave to put it all out there.

I'm sure any woman would be happy to have you as their husband!

God Bless & Happy Easter

I know that everyone thinks she should not continue. But I think from hearing from him. The application did not ask for mistimenors or felonies. I looked at bot apps because I friends interested and helped both fill out. I agree that he answered truthfully. I also thought felonies. But the driving record well I understand that. He has a attorney and thought that to be taken care of. If he has been truthful I think he is in it for and from the heart. Why would he try to justify this to anyone but Perky. This is no ones decissions but her's. And I say she should go for it. Because him past in the armed forces does have a part in is past and present. If he is trying to fix everything legally then and she feels in her heart not her mind she should be there with him. My husband had legal problems and I stood next to him before and after we married. I found out 4 months after dating him. Why should this be any different. Oh because they are getting married? Nope no different no one asked the other to marry.

I wish best luck to both of you. And Perky before this was known you felt in your heart something for him and you should now. I did and I have been with him for 12 years. Good luck "Dude" and "Perky"

Perky,

I find it odd that you call my comments about being desperate idiotic.

Wasn't it you who answered John's question with something like "It isn't about being picky or desperate (stupid laugh), it is about blah blah blah"

But John didn't ask you about being desperate, just about being picky.

Guilty consious Huh?

Perky do us all a favor prove that your a 22 year old child and marry the guy. Or prove that you might have some common sense and not marry the guy. Not because he has traffic tickets but because this is not the way to meet someone.

If you think this experiment could have worked or still can than you are a immature child.

Chris,

Why is it that you are harping on this. It is not our choice of a groom. We had our choice as the brides go. Now if you think this so bad stop blogging on it.

Is she right in saying you have nothing better to do. You are you not even seeing the big picture. So what a 10 to 15 hours talking on the phone 1 really blinded date. I hope they do get married. To prove you and everyone else wrong. This is truely in my eye romantic. I wished I was not married because I would have been flattered by all this.

Good luck to you both. Perky girl GO FOR IT he seems to me a winner. I did not like the other 5 at all and Dude was not a last choice for you but the RIGHT choice.

These comments apply to the experiment in general. I'm not giving guidance to Perky and Dude, and I would love CB or one of his staff to address my comments and questions below.

In a traditional relationship couples usually get to know each other little by little. You can't cover the important parts of your life, who you are, your morals, what you believe in, etc during a few phone conversations. This experiment is public entertainment, and while the intent of this experiment may seem harmless, the expectations exceed reality.

No one has mentioned the physical aspect of this relationship. How can you possibly be intimate with each other when you've only spoken on the phone a few times, and not even touched.

Would anyone out there encourage or expect a loved one or good friend to have an intimate relationship after a few phone chats? I doubt it. How are they handling this aspect of the experiment? Does WIL really expect the bride and groom to have a traditional "wedding night"?

I think this little experiment backfired and I will be very disappointed if a wedding takes place.

"and 2) "Life isnt about the mistakes you make; its about the lessons you learn from your mistakes"..."

Dude,

You hit the nail on the head there and frankly, that is why I think it would be a mistake for Perky to marry you at this point in time......

You have not learned from your mistakes. You don't even accept responsibility for the fact YOU made them... You passed the buck off as some rogue cops who have it out for you...

Furthermore, you are continuing to break the law by driving on a suspended license and justifying it by saying you need to drive to get to work..... Well, here is a newsflash for you, the court system provides for just such contingencies....... It's called a hardship license that lets you drive to and from work and an alcohol treatment..... That would be the proper thing to do, yet you did not take that step.

All these things show us all just how very little you have learned from your mistakes....

To me, these things show that you are not mature enough to be getting married to anyone, let alone a woman you have only talked to a very few times...........

JEN. We don't delete posts that are negative towards any particular person. It's all part of the discussion. We WILL delete posts that consist of name calling and basic gradeschool taunting.

Wowww Perky!!! Think you found your Knight in Shinning Armour, for Dude in my opinion has spoken on behalf of your honor and defense. If anyone has ever been in the Marine Corps, he knows what Dude has been trained to fight and to defend his honor and his country's honor. No one even ask what these fights was about nor even thought of asking? The DWI is not necessarily the character flaw of a young man but a bad choice that he did make at the time. Everyone wants to Judge Dude, for his past but when this country gets into trouble who do you think carry's the honor of our flag into the face of the enemy? Two tours of duty in war and you Judge him when he cracks some heads in a bar? But when our butt is on the line and men like Dude come to our aid, we then call them Hero's!!!! No...in my opinion Dude is a real Man, a man of honor and that is priceless in our society today. This is all about Love right? Love can change the world if one only gives it a chance, so lets give these two young hearts the chance to make the connection of their hearts!!!! The negative opinions will only deliver negative results these two young hearts deserve better from us so lets support them and stop the negative vibes, it's their decision... Semper Fidelis, Always Faithful, The Few, The Proud, The Marines!!!!

Good Luck and God Bless YOU Both!!!!

Is anyone else sick of hearing that Dude is a Marine? I get it! While I support our troops fighting for our freedom, being a Marine has nothing to do with the fact that he has a DWI, etc, etc. I'm ready for this to be over. I hope Perky makes a wise decision. I would stay single.

Perky & Dude, everyone has their opinion's, thats fine. My OWN opinion, is listen to your heart, YOU know how you feel when the two of you are talking. Listen to that feeling.

One thing, no matter what the bottom line is the two of you. Ms Perky - I wish both of you the best. From what I have heard, this man stands up for what's right, I myself have a man like he & in reality, I would not change this. My ole man has had issues similar to Dude's & in time ( god's time ), all resolves itself. I am blessed to be with my sweetheart, & I really wish the same for you both.

Anyone out there who is single should know how hard it is to find 'Mr.Right' or Ms Right. This experiment has cut out month's of the courtship process for this couple. They have background checks, they know what to expect, but if they are willing to marry and take a chance, sight unseen after all the blogs and all the negative feedback, then they must have the same mindset, and that is to make it work. They will have to be together on that and fight for their belief that what they did was right for them. They are young and young people make mistakes. I wish them all the luck in the world, and with their family's support they should be able to have a happy life together. It takes a special person to ignore tradition and take a chance like this. It's not necessarily irresponsible to 'jump in' to a marraige if the feelings are there. Trust is the main ingredient. If they can trust each other then they can make it. If they put their past lives in the past and concentrate on the present and each other, it can work out. I am cheering them on and hoping that they find the happy ending we are all looking for.

I'm all for love. I believe you should listen to your heart. But Perky herself said on the show that she didn't expect to be in love on her wedding day. These people have talked for a few hours. Why do they have to get married on Wednesday? For WIL's ratings? For our entertainment? Does anyone actually care about these people? The pressure the radio station and the public are putting on them is enormous! Is Perky even able to assess the situation while she's exhausted from working? Getting married just so it can be a fancy affair with all of St. Louis watching is not the right reason for getting married. And you have a 50-50 chance of it working. Or it may be OK, but not really what it should be. If it doesn't work, do you want all of St. Louis watching that too? The truth is, they may be perfect for each other and Dude may be Mr. Right. But maybe not. Why are they taking the chance when all they have to do is wait and date on their own for awhile and give each a chance to show each other their real personalities. Because, you know, everyone is on their best behavior on the show, and in the beginning of a relationship. And why do we have to cut out the courtship process? The courtship process is fun (with the right person), filled with memories for our "golden years" - which we hope the couple will reach together. The courtship process also allows trust to develop and grow. How can you trust someone if you haven't developed a relationship and tested their character? Have we become a society that wants instant this, instant that and now instant marriage? Perky and Dude, I'm not telling you to forget it. I'm telling you it would be a prudent, mature decision to wait and learn about each other (because we don't know the real Perky either from just a few days on the radio)

I never heard this mentioned on the show, but if you search Google this is what you'll find:

Since 1998, this contest has been held 21 times around the globe. The unusual concept is packaged for radio stations by a company called Absolute & Dowse.

So far, every single couple got married and went off on a honeymoon paid for by sponsors (all of the competitions have included some heavy duty incentives courtesy of sponsors), but 16 of the 20 couples have since split up.

I love CB and the crew but I was led to believe this was his idea. I'm a loyal listener.

The statistics don't sound very good.

Do a google search of 2 Strangers and a Wedding and just see what all comes up!

OMG! I couldn't believe what I saw when I searched the web!

I also thought this was an original idea, CB's social experiment.

I guess he never said it hadn't been done before - did he?